Why do I get irritated so easily? When I do, I feel like I'm losing it. I started hitting things, yelling, and wanting to be alone.
You most likely have physical discomfort in your body (likely in your stomach, back, or chest).
Start to notice your physical sensations when you're irritated. Once you've figured them out, then you have a more direct line to the issue.
Use exercise, soothing self touch techniques (like Havening), or a hot shower, something to relax and create healthy positive sensations in your body.
One thing to further consider is the difficulty of putting our attention on uncomfortable physical sensations.
It’s literally the least enjoyable thing to pay attention to. It’s literally viscerally upsetting.
There’s a kind of finality about it, a terror of mortality.
That's because discomfort in the torso does reduce our life energy. It deadens us a little.
And of course, for some reason, our brains hide from us the fact that these things are connected. It’s somehow not built into our awareness that internally generated physical sensations are the vehicles of emotion flow.
But if you change the visceral sensations in your torso, you change the emotions behind your eyes.
Dave Wolovsky, MS CAPP
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